Tantric massage is a ritual based on Tantric philosophy and Tantric-Taoist techniques mixed with classical massage. It is a relaxing and intimate ritual of the whole body, including the lingam (penis). Thus, no part of the body is forbidden and no taboo is created around it (unless boundaries are set otherwise). It is about surrendering to the giver, being in the present moment and forgetting the world around you. More than with any other massage, there is a focus on the personal touch, listening to intuition and working with energy. It can also have therapeutic effects, where deeply hidden blocks can be released during the ritual. Tantric massage is a great way to get to know yourself, your sexuality and to completely relax.
WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN TANTRIC AND EROTIC MASSAGE?
Although it may not be apparent at first glance, the difference between tantric and erotic massage is quite enormous. Unlike Tantric massage, erotic massage is only focused on physical arousal and cannot be expected to have a greater dimension and transcendence. It is also usually much much shorter, often lasting only 30 to 60 minutes. It has a clear course and goal – a massage leading to the arousal of the reveiver and subsequent climax. Tantric massage has no such goal and climax is therefore not its intention. However, due to the fact that during the tantric ritual we let go of control, surrender and accept all the reactions of the body without evaluation, climax can happen here too. The important thing, however, is that it is not something pre-planned, but one of the many outcomes of the tantric ritual.
HOW DOES TANTRIC MASSAGE WORK?
Tantric massage is a ritual and a celebration of the human body and the course of the massage is based on this. Starting with the environment (where the ritual includes a pleasant setting with relaxing music, candles and aromatherapy scents) and the approach, which is based on sensitivity, respect and kindness. Each ritual is a bit different as it is a very sensitive and intuitive process. Nevertheless, it has a structure and does not abandon the tantric essence.
The massage itself is always preceded by an initial conversation where I not only introduce each recipient to tantra, but also listen to what led you to tantric massage, what your expectations are, and discuss boundaries and any health limitations. This initial conversation will not only beautifully initiate you into the ritual, but will also ease any nerves you may have. The massage itself begins with a standing ritual where we wear a sarong. It’s a gentle introduction to tantric massage where I make sure to feel safe, accepted and attuned to the receiver. Then the receiver lies on their stomach and the oil-free part begins, which focuses on grounding and relaxing the buttocks and head (where most tension tends to build up in my experience). This is followed by the oil part which alternates slow and fast long strokes, incorporates body to body elements and overall massages and relaxes the whole body beautifully. The receiver then lies down on their back and the ritual concludes with an intimate massage of the lingam (penis). Sexual energy opens up and is spread throughout the body. At the end, the receiver is covered with a sarong and left alone to absorb the massage for some time. The whole ritual is again followed by a conversation where we talk about our impressions of the massage.
ARE WE BOTH NAKED DURING THE TANTRIC MASSAGE?
At the beginning of every tantric massage we are in a sarong, which is a kind of scarf over the body. Later, both the receiver and the giver remove the sarong, but it is not a requirement. As mentioned above, each ritual is individual and tailored to the specific individual. Again, it depends on the predefined boundaries. It should be emphasized that during a tantric ritual, neither the receiver nor the giver is a sexual object; on the contrary, nudity figures here as something pure and natural.
CAN I TOUCH THE GIVER DURING TANTRIC MASSAGE?
Throughout the ritual, the roles of the receiver and giver are clearly defined, so there is no interaction. Personally, I am okay with it if the receiver grabs my hand or puts his hand on my thigh, but that is where the interaction ends. The point of the ritual is to get back to ourselves, it’s a time dedicated to us alone and any interaction with the outside just cancels out the process. I recommend just surrendering and not disturbing the moment of deep relaxation.
WHAT IF I GET AN ERECTION DURING THE TANTRIC MASSAGE? OR EVEN EJACULATE?
Tantric massage is working with sexual energy that opens up in waves during the ritual and continues to be sent throughout the body. It is therefore natural that an erection and sometimes even ejaculation may occur during the final lingam massage. But this is not the goal, because tantra has no goal. So during the ritual, one does not strive for climax, but at the same time does not suppress it either. It’s about being in the present and accepting all of the body’s response as natural and perfectly fine.
WHAT LENGTH OF MASSAGE TO CHOOSE?
Tantric massage starts at 90 minutes and can last for several hours. It is impossible to recommend an ideal length for everyone, it is completely individual. However, in my own experience, I have observed that the truly deepest relaxation is most often obtained by recipients during a ritual of at least 120 minutes. In rituals longer than 120 minutes I also include a very nice element of placing warm towels, which gives the whole ritual another dimension. It is also good to keep in mind when choosing the length that, although it may not seem like it, time really does fly during the ritual.
HOW TO PREPARE BEFORE A TANTRIC MASSAGE?
There is no need to prepare or bring anything with you before the massage. Just basic hygiene in the form of a shower will suffice. However, it is not advisable to consume any consciousness-altering substances (alcohol and other drugs) or smoke cigarettes on the day of the appointment.
WHAT OIL DO YOU USE?
I always use cold-pressed premium quality organic oils in my tantric rituals. Such oil contains the maximum amount of bioactive substances, vitamins and minerals that nourish and regenerate the skin beautifully and prevent premature aging. At the same time, they are well absorbed and do not leave a greasy feeling. I most often use organic sunflower oil from Saloos, which I mix with fragrant essential oils.
